#5/21 Learning plan

https://www.bbc.co.uk/learningenglish/english/features/6-minute-english_2023/ep-230330

Vocabulary
the green-eyed monster

(British English) jealousy or envy

significant other

wife, husband or other romantic partner who you are in a long-term relationship with

flirting(打情罵俏)
behaving as if you are sexually attracted to someone but playfully rather than with serious intentions

envy

wanting to have the possessions or qualities that someone else has

pill

medicine in the form of small tablet which you swallow

cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) (認知行為療法)
type of therapy which helps people deal with their emotional and behavioural problems by changing the way they think about them

TRANSCRIPT Sam

Hello. This is 6 Minute English from BBC Learning English. I’m Sam.

Neil

And I’m Neil.

Sam

Your friend, Alicia, phoned and left you a message for you, Neil. She’s sorry but she has to cancel lunch today. I think she’s going with Jenny, instead.

Neil

That’s the third time this week they’ve had lunch together! Are they best friends now?

Sam
It sounds like Neil has a case of the green-eyed monster, in other words, jealousy – the fear that someone else may take something you think is

yours. Humans have struggled with jealousy for thousands of years. Jealousy damages friendships, destroys relationships, and can even become a motive for murder.

Neil
In this programme, we’ll discuss jealousy to find out happens when the green-eyed monster raises its ugly head. And, as usual, we’ll be learning some useful new vocabulary. Meanwhile, my friend Alicia will be having lunch with Jenny instead of me...

Sam

Feeling jealous is no fun. Maybe this question will take your mind off it. The expression ‘the green-eyed monster’ comes from a speech in one of William Shakespeare’s most famous plays, but which one? Is it:

1. a)  Romeo and Juliet?

2. b)  Hamlet? or,

c) Othello?

Neil

I think the answer is Othello.

Sam

OK, Neil. I’ll reveal the answer later in the programme. For many people, feelings of jealousy occur in romantic relationships. Here psychologist, Dr Alex Mielke,explains whyto BBC World Service programme, CrowdScience.

Dr Alex Mielke

So you have a friend, a significant other, your parents... and you have the feeling that this relationship is threatened by someone else starting some form of relationship with them, starting a new friendship, you know, flirting with them and so on, which is different from envy, for example, which is probably the emotion that gets you to act when someone has something you want and you have to somehow get that from them – that’s when you feel envious.

Neil

Jealousy can be a problem for husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, or anyone involved in a romantic relationship. Dr Mielke uses the term, significant other, to describe any kind of romantic partner who you have a long-term relationship with.

Sam
You might feel jealous if someone flirts with your partner. Flirting is when you behave as if you are sexually attracted to someone but in a playful way rather than with serious intentions.

Neil

Dr Mielke also notes the difference between two words people often confuse: jealousy, and a similar term, envy - wanting what someone else has. You could be envious of someone’s possessions like a new car, their achievements like promotion at work, or a personal quality like being funny or good-looking.

Sam

So, jealousy involves three people – you, your loved one, and someone else - whereas envy involves just two - you and the person who has something you want. But while these emotions are easy to define, they can be very difficult to manage.

Neil

Jealousy can lead to controlling behaviour, like checking your partner’s text messages or monitoring who they see, behaviour which damages relationships. But unlike other psychological problems such as anxiety or obsessive-compulsive disorder, many do not feel brave enough to ask for help with their jealousy.

Sam

So, what can people who struggle with jealousy do? That’s the question Caroline Steel, presenter of BBC World Service programme, CrowdScience, asked clinical psychologist, Dr Johan Ahlen.

Caroline Steel

If there was sort of an ideal future for people looking for help with their jealousy, what would it be like? Could there be a pill? Or would it be a specific therapy? Or what’s kind of a realistic ideal future?

Dr Johan Ahlen

I believe that some kind of cognitive behavioural therapy where you work with decreasing this monitoring and checking behaviours like having a plan for how to do that because that's not easy. And also, at the same time increasing activities or behaviours that harmonise with how you want to become.

Neil
Unfortunately, Dr Ahlen says jealousy cannot be cured by taking a pill – medicine in the form of a small tablet that you swallow.

Sam
Instead, he recommends , or CBT for short, a therapy which helps people deal with their emotions by changing how they think about things. Instead of feeling jealous that your best friend is spending time with someone else, try feeling happy that she’s made a new friend.

Neil

Good idea - plus I won’t have that horrid feeling of the green-eyed monster inside! Speaking of which, it’s time to reveal the answer to your question, Sam.

Sam

I asked which famous Shakespearian play first described jealousy as ‘the green-eyed monster’.

Neil

I said it was Othello. So, was I right?

Sam

Othello was the correct answer! Othello becomes so jealous that he murders his wife, Desdemona, before killing himself. If only he’d had some therapy! Right, let’s recap the vocabulary from this programme on

, another name for jealousy.

Neil

A is a wife, husband or other romantic partner who you are in a long-term relationship with.

Sam

Neil
The emotion envy means wanting what someone else has.

Sam
A pill is medicine in the form of a small tablet which you swallow.

Neil
And finally, cognitive behavioural therapy or CBT is a type of therapy where

means playfully pretending you are sexually attracted to someone.

people are encouraged to change the way they think about their emotional and behavioural problems. Once again, our six minutes are up. Join us again soon for more emotional support as well as new and useful vocabulary here at 6 Minute English. Bye for now!

Sam

Bye bye!